Sunday, March 25, 2012

Shocking Bully Behavior at a Sporting Event - March 2012

Last night my husband, his sister, our brother in law, and I attended a Chicago Express hockey game at the Sears Centre.  It was our first time at one of these games.  The Express is a pro team affiliated with the NFL's Columbus Blue Jackets.  The game started out poorly, with the Kalamazoo Wings scoring in the first 26 seconds.  But that isn't the worst thing about the start of the game.  That initial goal unleashed a barrage of rude and unsportsmanlike conduct on the part of the Wings fans, particularly one woman (I used that term lightly) fan.  She was not a young woman by any means.  In fact, she was old enough to know better.  Along with it, she brought along a lot of hostility, ignorance, and the poorest lack of sportsmanship I have ever witnessed at a sporting event...and I've seen some pretty ugly behavior at Bears and Blackhawks games.  This experience tops all I've seen - even the brawl between two drunken women at a Bears game a few years back.  This woman didn't have alcohol to blame for her behavior...just a lack of good breeding.

Let me set the scene first.  A young Express fan was pretty verbal in his support for the team, shouting out cheers and DANCING crazily when songs were played in the venue.  Most of us in the stands were absolutely entertained by this young man...except for the Wings fan mentioned above.  This turned her into an absolute - for lack of a better word without being too graphic - IDIOT.  She and other Wings fans starting shouting things out like, "Express sucks!"  OK, I could handle that one.  I've heard worse.  But it continued.  One Wings fan began assaulting Chicago - yelling out something about how wonderful Kalamazoo is, and how we all live in the Murder Capital of the Country.  Yes, Hoffman Estates is a hotbed of crime and murder!  Well, at this point my competitive side began to get a bit riled up.  I turned around and just sort of gave them my "teacher eye" but didn't say anything.  The woman (aka IDIOT) now began her verbal assault on this teenager.  The kid just laughed it off for the most part. The Sears Centre became an arena of aggression and hostility.  Season ticket holders began letting this woman know how rude she was - let's leave the verbiage shared to your own imaginations.  Suffice it to say it wasn't pretty!

Security was then involved and spoke to the female (?) fan and warned her about her behavior.  The teen was also spoken to.  While the young man tamed down his cheers, the female fan took unsportsmanlike behavior to a whole new level.  It's funny how physically ugly someone becomes when their words are so filled with ignorance.  This brazen beast now decided to get up and walk over to the area where the players leave the ice to return to the locker room.  She unfurled a huge Wings flag, draped it over the railing, and proceeded to taunt the Express players with "You suck!" hurled at each player as they walked through.    Shamefully,  my Guagenti competitiveness began bubbling over.  But, I maintained some semblance of civility and said nothing - Artie already sensed my angst and sort of corralled me and my mouth (he did however once encourage me to "go get her").

I drew upon what I knew was best.  Be the adult.  Be a role model for the kids witnessing this debacle - who, by the way were very interested in all of the actions in the stands because at this point it was certainly better than the game being played.  The Wings went up 4-1 and stayed that way up until the 3rd period, but that can wait for a bit.

I immediately had flashbacks of some of the obnoxious/verbally abusive parents I've seen along the way through my own kids' days of youth sports.  I was always amazed at how some parents could behave in the stands.  As an educator and wife of a man who coached youth sports throughout our son's youth, I was appalled at what I saw and heard in the stands.  It became clear to me that the IDIOT was a big bully - the villain all kids fear - in an adult's body.  Judging from her appearance, I am surmising that she was the victim of bullying as a child and was getting even.

At this point in the evening, Express fans were frustrated with the scoreboard and overall play of their team.  I recalled the one and only time I ever saw my own sweet father lose his cool at a youth indoor soccer game.  Danny and his team were playing a ragtag group of deviate soccer players, obviously thrown together to wreak havoc in this indoor soccer  league - they were untalented, unskilled brutes who had probably never played a day of soccer in their teenage lives.  A wimpy official had let the game get completely out of hand.  He refused to call penalties and our kids were being assaulted on the indoor soccer field - concrete covered by fake grass.  Things got particularly ugly for us when a despicable brute literally picked up my son and threw him headfirst into the boards.  I jumped up and demanded a penalty, which never came.  I saw my father, who always sat as close to the glass as possible, stand up, and he looked angry.  The game progressed in its ugly state, and honestly, I don't know what the final score was, but I know our team (comprised of skilled Wheaton North and Glenbard North soccer players) won.

As we hooked up with my mild-mannered father again, he had a strange look in his eyes and seemed to be on a mission.  He walked quickly ahead of us and was headed towards the ref, who as I see it, put our kids' safety at risk for an entire game.  He walked up to the ref and exclaimed, "You don't deserve to wear a jockstrap!" which I guess in his day was a really bad thing to say to a ref.  Lex Luther had taken over my Superman/Clark Kent dad.  My father was quite the all-around athlete, even playing in the Cubs farm system in his younger days, and he always maintained the most appropriate decorum at sporting events.  He always talked up good sportsmanship.  But that afternoon he had lost it.  I still smile whenever I think of it.  But his meek display of frustration paled in comparison to the actions of the Wings fans.

Getting back to IDIOT's actions with the Wings flag - when the second period was about to end, a coalition of loyal Express fans took matters into their own hands...and it was a thing of sporting events beauty.  They mobilized by lining the sides of the "tunnel" as well as the railing from where IDIOT hung her flag previously.  Essentially, they blocked her from doing her heinous deed.  IDIOT didn't let that faze her much.  She stuffed herself between some fans and attempted to drape the flag again.  What happened next will stay with me for a long time.  A senior citizen Express fan positioned herself next to IDIOT and each time the ugly Wings fan tried to unfurl the flag, the senior blocked this from happening!  I sort of drew in a breath and hoped this wouldn't elevate to fisticuffs, because this would have been ugly in all sense of the word!  I think IDIOT must have sensed the feelings in the crowd and eventually slithered back to her seat.

At the end of the 2nd period, there were several brawls - the gloves off, jerseys over the head kind - and lots of penalties doled out.  This only heightened the fervor in the Sears Centre.  I noted that whomever plays the music in the arena saves the loudest head-banger music for when things get heated.  This seems to whip the crowd into a blood-thirsty frenzy.  I am not sure if the Express players were aware of this assault on good fan behavio, but in the 3rd period they went crazy!

Now to the good part of the evening... the Express entered the ice for the third period facing a three goal deficit.  They had done nothing right up to this point.  It seemed to me that it was the very atmosphere in the Sears Centre that changed them.  They must have been picking up the vibes of hostility in the stands...and that "devil music" sure didn't help any to calm things down!  They began the period with a  two-player advantage and scored a goal pretty quickly.  The fans loved it.  But they loved it even more when the Express scored a total of 4 unanswered goals to win the game.  Suddenly IDIOT was silenced, as were the other Kalamazoo fans who had earlier tried to flaunt the lead their team had.  It was a thing of sporting beauty.  The Express won the game.

It turned out to actually be a fun evening.  Lots of laughter (thanks, crazy dancing kid), some arousal of my competitive side (thanks, IDIOT), and the miracle of a come-from-behind victory.  This is always fun, in any event or phase of life.

Sunday, March 18, 2012

The Gift of Summer in March 2012

I guess it's been eons since I've last blogged.  I am not sure why I even set out to do it today.  I think it's because my heart is so full with maximum joy for the weather we have been blessed with for the past week, and when my heart is full I feel the need to write...  or create something.  I did that last week when I completed two glass dome projects and a tulip wreath for the front door.  Could it be because we've had eighty degree days and glorious sunshine?  You bet!

Speaking of this awesome warm weather, Artie and I succumbed to the heat yesterday and turned on our AC.  Seriously?  Air conditioning in March?  Yes.  It was very warm in our house and we just decided to suck it up and crank up the machine that has sat idle since about September of last year.  It has been worth it.  My allergies are so much happier, and thus, so am I.  The premature budding of all the flora and fauna out my doors is already wreaking havoc on my poor nose and eyes.  This isn't supposed to happen until late April or early May.  No...I am not complaining.  I realize we could be shoveling snow or wearing sweaters, scarves and mittens instead.

While walking into my closet to find something more suited for the summer-like weather we've been having, I glanced over the rack and realized that I hadn't even worn some of the new cold weather clothing I bought!  I smiled because I realized that they will still be in perfect shape for next year's cold wintery days.

I will not lie when I say that this warm weather has given me reason to pause a bit too.  Because I've been a native Chicagoan/Suburbanite my whole life (except for that 15 month stint in Janesville, WI some 12  1/2 years ago), my pessimistic side is conjured up.  I keep waiting for the proverbial other shoe to drop.  TV weather forecasters are conflicted too.  Some of them say we are done for the season - one even said that plants may be confused, but migratory birds are not, and they have arrived.  Another lamented that we are "not out of the woods yet".  It is, after all, Chicagoland and we natives know that if you don't like the weather here, wait five minutes and it will change.  This waiting and wondering when it will is a bit unnerving.  Do I switch out my closet from winter to summer or wait until Mothers Day - you know, like we have to do in order to plant around these parts?  I saw some foolish people buying rose bushes yesterday.  I chuckled to myself and thought they must be new to these parts.

I want more of this next winter...please, La Nina?  This is the first winter I can remember in which I didn't have cabin fever once.  I didn't miss having to shovel paths in the grass for Guinness to do his "business".  I didn't miss having chattering teeth while the car warmed up.  I didn't miss my runny nose turning to icicles in five minutes of being outside.  I didn't miss having to take long soaks to get the chill out of my body.  In other words, I didn't miss a typical Chicago winter.  In the meanwhile, I am just going to take this all in, revel in it, soak up the sunshine, listen to the twitterings of all the birds as they ready their nests, watch my tulips poking through, and shoot photos of anything that looks better in its new state than it did during icky winter...which was not bad at all this year.

By the way, my grandkids are loving this most of all.  I am too because I get great shots of them!